I recently heard a great take on fear and how it traps us in indecision, avoidance, of self-sabotage. We want something but we are too afraid to 1) decide we are going to go after it, 2) give up whatever is necessary to get what we want, 3) start the journey, or 4) fail.
We would rather continue through the motions because we are nervous about the future!
We would rather push aside the dreams, the hopes, the desires because we are simply . . . afraid.
I want to present a different want of thinking about the above 4 fears.
1. Deciding to go after the change . . .
Whether is it is stopping smoking or losing 40 pounds, deciding you are going to change your life is big. I get it. There are all these little thoughts that cloud your vision when you think about the process. All the changes, all the challenges, and all the new. I want to challenge you to stop fearing the process and embrace it instead. To do that, you need to stop trying to swallow the cow. You can’t do it. Try thinking about smaller pieces. If you want to lose weight, stop looking at the final number and decide what you want to accomplish by the end of this month and what smaller changes you can make to achieve that goal. “Baby steps” is what I like to tell all of our clients at Body3.
2. The fear of what you have to give up . . .
Stop thinking about all the things you have to give up and think about the things you gain. Instead of thinking about having to cut soda out of your diet, think about how much better you will feel when you lose 5 pounds. Instead of thinking about having to do cardio, think about how much better you will feel playing with the grandkids. I get to vs. I have to!
3. The fear of starting the journey . . .
I hate to break it to you, but starting anything new is tough. It means you had to change habits. It may mean breaking off bad relationships. It may even mean changing the way you currently think about certain things. Like I said in #1 though, don’t get caught up in all the nuances of the process. Make the first step and let the others happen naturally. Most people who decide to lose weight who threw all the chips in at once fail. Those who start with one thing at a time and allow those things to become habits are the ones who make long lasting life changes. Don’t worry about the last step . . . attack the first step.
4. Fear of failure . . .
You have already resigned that it won’t work. You have tried losing weight before and failed. You had tried getting ready for a marathon and failed. You realize you are self-sabotaging yourself. Stop! You will never know if something will work if you left failure consume you. It’s self-prophecy . . . if you tell yourself you can’t do something you won’t. Don’t let the fear of failure stop you before you even get started.
Fear is real and it easily stops us from making the changes in our life we need to. Stop letting it do that. Stop letting fear control your life.
I know that is easier said than done, so if you are struggling with fear around making change in your health and fitness give the best training studio in Houston a call today at (713) 864-1231 or complete our free consultation form here and let us help you break through that and get the body you want!